The Male Body

It's common to not have a full erection sometimes. This is true for every man. It's especially common in a situation that is new, exciting or stressful, like being with a new partner, for example. Having a fear of erection problems can often result in an erection problem. Take your time with your new partners, and have patience. Being sexually comfortable with a new partner often takes time, try being naked and touching each other for a longer period of time. Payoffs are greatly improved by this method for all parties involved. Slow deep conscious breathing can help send a message to your body and your brain to relax. There are lots of fun things to do while you’re waiting for an erection...

Basic Information On Fellatio

You can get STD's including HIV/AIDS from performing oral sex. Your best protection is to use a condom. Some men may bemoan the use of a condom as they can reduce sensitivity. A good way to introduce them is to include them in your technique. Try putting it on with your mouth by grasping the tip with you lips, centering ot over the head and rolling it down as you take him into your mouth. You may need to push the end of the condom down using your hand.

Giving head, a blow job, fellatio, whatever you call it, most men love it! Some women feel it gives them a sense of empowerment over a man. After all his most delicate parts are completely at your disposal. There are a few issues that most women are concerned about when going down: technique, that pesky gag reflex, and taste.

Techniques vary but the best one is to be creative and to have a good attitude about what you are doing. I advise getting your whole body involved in the process: hands, mouth, breasts, whatever you can conjure up. If this is your first experience with your partner you might try something simple like licking and sucking on the shaft of his penis while using your hands to lightly massage his scrotum. “Deep throating” is a technique where the penis actually goes down the back of the throat. This can cause a warm, tight, clutching sensation on the penis but can also cause a few problems for the woman.

The male penis is generally five to six inches long and the mouth cavity only three to four. Those extra two inches can be difficult to swallow, literally. Breathing while deep throating can be an issue as well as the gag reflex. Learning to breath through your nose can help but really just adding a little variation and not staying in that position until you pass out from oxygen deprivation would be the wisest.

The gag reflex is caused by two things, one is mental and one is physiological. When something presses on your soft palate it can cause a signal to be sent to your Vagus nerve, thus causing you to gag. Some women have very sensitive gag reflexes and up to a third of the population does not have one at all. Swallowing unusually large objects or placing objects in the back of the mouth may cause the reflex, and those who frequently experience the reflex can often train themselves to suppress it. For those needing a little more help there are a couple of things that can come in handy. Good Head and Go Deep Mints are two products that contain an ingredient that helps to relax the throat muscles and numb the nerves that cause the gag reflex.

The more lubrication there is in the process the easier it will be. If saliva really isn't doing it for you try using a flavored lube, just remember that if you are planning on moving on intercourse later to either make sure it is sugar free or that you get all of it off beforehand (be diligent in your licking ladies!) Brands like Foreplay and WET have excellent palate pleasing flavors that are sugar free. As for the taste of the ejaculate, that can be another matter altogether.

The taste of semen varies depending on the man and his diet. Semen mainly consists of the seminal fluid and sperm. Seminal fluid consists of amino acids, enzymes,fructose (15 calories per serving ladies) proteins, vitamin c and a few other ingredients that are all generally not harmful to swallow. If the taste seems a bit off try having him eat some pineapple, kiwi, watermelon or celery a few hours beforehand as they have been known to give ejaculate a lighter taste. Avoid the dairy section, they can produce foul flavors in semen. All in all, the decision to digest ejaculate, spit it out or simply not have it come in contact with your mouth at all is a personal preference.

Something a Little Wilder, a.k.a. The Prostate

If your man is comfortable with letting you go for the “back door action” , make sure that A) you wash everything beforehand. Bacteria from this region could do very bad things if digested. Feel free to use latex gloves as long as he doesn't have a latex allergy as this keeps your fingernails from scratching him and things nice and clean. B) Use lots of lubrication, the more the better. If you think you have enough, add a little more.

Now with a well lubricated index finger, gently and very slowly begin to massage the outside of the anus. He will probably tense up at first and you will feel the muscles contract. Massage until he relaxes or until he begins to apply pressure to your finger signaling that he is ready for penetration. Slowly push your finger in and forward toward the front of his body. About two to three inches in there will be a slight bulge, this is his prostate. Apply gentle pressure to it and if he's comfortable start rubbing it with the tip of your finger in small circles. This will probably make him ejaculate very hard and very quickly. Afterwards remember to take your finger out slowly as he will be very sensitive and removing it quickly might cause great discomfort.

Companies have also widen their selection of toys available to men for use on the prostate. The Rude Boy is a silicone prostate massager that houses a very high powered bullet in one end and curves around to hit the prostate on the other. For something a little more tapered, check out some intro anal plugs that have a slightly narrower tip for beginners.

Cock Rings, Libido Enhancing Pills, and Desensitizing Creams

All three are made to help a man last longer and have a better more fulfilling sexual experience, but they work in completely different ways. If there is a problem maintaining a full erection you should probably begin by trying out a ring. If you are tired, not feeling the arousal you would like and need more energy to have sex, try a pill like Max Stamina or Max Size. If you are having problems with premature ejaculation, a desensitizing cream may work best to keep you going.

Cock rings are rings that go around the base of the shaft of the penis, around the scrotum, or around both. Some have vibrating bullets attached to them that add a little extra sensation for both partners. The basic concept of a ring is to keep the blood flow into the penis, in the penis. This allows for a harder, fuller and longer erection. As the blood flow to the penis is being cut off you never want to leave a ring on for more than twenty to thirty minutes as it can cause damage to the tissue of the penis. We recommend starting out with a jelly or silicone ring like the Island Rings if you have never tried one before as metal and rubber rings can sometimes be uncomfortable. Using a lube place the ring at the bottom of the shaft. This can be done before or after erection has been achieved but is generally easier afterwards. Take the ring off right before ejaculation for best results. Some rings come with a quick release snap that makes taking them off in a hurry easy.

About Penis Size

It’s a common misconception, and widely held fear, that large penises rule the world of sexual happiness. In the reality of biology, 90% of erect penises measure 5-7 inches in length, and 1-2 inches in diameter. If you're concerned that your penis is too small, you can rest assured that you are in good company. In a land led by Texans, our media and culture tell us that bigger is better. But that can’t be true of all things, especially when it comes down to tools. For a moment, think of your penis as a tool. If it is too small, what is it too small for? Just like different tasks require different tools, many people prefer different penis sizes for different activities. Some people say they like large ones for oral sex, medium ones for vaginal sex, and small ones for anal sex. Still others have preferences in the exact opposite direction and everything in between. Some people like the sensation of fullness that a larger penis can provide but there are many ways to achieve this sensation. For hundreds of ideas, just check out our catalog.

For some people, penis size doesn’t matter at all. In surveys about what women and men want in a lover, findings indicate that most people are looking for qualities like interpersonal connection with their partner, their partner's attention and sensitivity to their body, and the ability to respond to their individual needs. So if you want to please your partner, take time to learn about your partner's body and find out what moves them. Take a load of worry off your pecker and just love it, it stands to bring you some of the best pleasure you’ve ever known.

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